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Parents, Youth, & Purpose
Purpose, Destiny, & Sex

"God desires for you to understand the Significant Direction for your life. When you lack true purpose and the governmental power of destiny, it will leave you 'open to search out your emotional feelings' outside of the sanctioned parameters of wisdom."

Your sexuality is not evil. It is not perverted. It is a positive thing as well as a holy thing. However, you must guard your sexuality with sacred value and significance. God has created the parameters for your sexual life. He has already established the borders for an incredible sexual progression 'within the purposeful confines of marriage.'

God desires for you to truly understand your sexuality and your attractiveness to the opposite sex. You were designed to be attracted to the opposite sex, but not for the reason of defilement. Not for the reasons of proving your manhood or womanhood to anyone else, not even yourself!

God desires for you to understand the Significant Direction for your life. When you lack true purpose and the governmental power of destiny, it will leave you 'open to search out your emotional feelings' outside of the sanctioned parameters of wisdom. In other words, 'you may get emotionally scarred for life if you mishandle the sexual dimensions of your body.'

True maturity is not only in your grades, but in your capacity to make the right decisions when everyone else is not. It is found in your ability to 'accept yourself and the Standard that has been established for you' even when others do not.'

 

Life has a way of 'pressuring you to make the comfortable decision, and not the one that is always right!' When we do this, we will get hurt. You may feel that you are ready for a relationship 'that may also consist of sexual intimacy.'

You may feel that 'awesome feeling of independence that comes with being a teenager that is progressing into more adult-like responsibility.' You may have your own job. Your own car. Or, you may be handling your 'soon to be college affairs' yourself. School administrators may be telling you that you are ready for scholarships and grants. All of this talk of new responsibility has a way of making a young person feel 'as though they have arrived.'

Yes, you may feel that you are ready for the responsibility of having 'a real relationship with someone, with sex included.' I have seen many teenagers seemingly having 'serious relationships, as though they were married already.' Yet, they are still living at home with their parents or guardian. The feeling of independence, in the mind of a teen however, is some kind of experience.

Let me warn you. Your body may be ready for sex, but your emotions are not. Sex, outside of marriage, has a way of 'opening up emotions and feelings' that were 'embedded in a hidden place in your mind.' It has a way of 'cheating you of your true value and worth.' It has a tragic way of making you 'doubt' the substance and value of your Significance. You must understand that sex 'is not merely your body, it is also your 'mind and emotions.'

God desires for your mind to function according to the purposes that were designed in you. But if your 'mind is held captive by someone else,' you will find yourself forfeiting the true value of your life and spirit.

God does not desire for us to live in severe, mental doubt. It is not His Will for us to be held captive 'at the hands of sexual impurity and emotional instability.' When we are not faithful to our own bodies, 'we have inner doubts that cause us to believe that others are not faithful to us.'

 

GRACE & MERCY

If you are someone who has had sexual relations outside of marriage, God still has the power to cleanse and forgive. As a matter of fact, He forgave you 'before you were ever guilty of the act.' His blood has the power to cleanse all sin, failure, and unrighteousness. You will not be thrown away, nor will you be condemned. To live in the benefits of His forgiveness, however, you must become who the Father is. You must become a responsible son of God. If not, you will find yourself suffering mentally, physically, and emotionally 'because of the guilt of feeling misplaced and full of inner doubt.'

Those of you who have not been faithful to your body, and are suffering in your hearts because of it, know this; Christ yet loves you. He now desires to make you live responsibly as a mature individual, full of leadership, wisdom, and power decision making ability. He desires to see you 'as He sees Himself!'

He desires for your mind and emotion to soar and be free, not burdened with the guilt of becoming a mother or father 'before marriage, or dealing with the torment and struggle of disease that can be transmitted through sexual relationships outside of the marriage covenant. His love and purpose for you 'has set these important boundaries for you.' He is simply 'protecting His investment.'

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