Delivered From "Need"

The true motive of marriage covenant will be tested in the fullness of time. For some in marriage, 'need' looks a lot like 'love.' But 'need' is not 'love.' Need is need and love is love. Love remains. But needs change.

Trust can never be 'seen' in a 'need based' relationship. Trust can only be realized, or manifested, 'when their is no dependent need for one another anymore.' Two codependent people 'will always feed from one another, so trust is invisible.' But mutual covenant that is not based on 'need,' has within it the power to produce 'infallible trust.'

It is possible for people 'to fall out of need' for one another, and find that there was no true love for one another.' They perceived 'need' to be 'love.' 'Need' will create the cohesiveness of certain relationships. Manipulation is 'not clearly seen between two parties that are dependent on what each other possesses.'

Seasons will produce a 'tension' by which the foundations of every relationship will be tested. Individuals who have been married for 20, 30, and even 40 years, seem to 'up and suddenly divorce.' How unthinkable we imagine in ourselves. As incredible as this seems, most people have yet to learn the capacity to mature to the next dimension that comes right after 'falling out of need for one another.' This dimension 'is where perfect love and perfect trust is discovered.'

'Need' has the ability to 'create hope, success, and even failure.' If it has the capacity to create hope, it must be able to also create failure. Even in our subconscious, we do not want to 'appear more needy than the one we are with, for the sake of appearing vulnerable and open to manipulation or control.'

'Need' appears to look like 'love' to the one who is 'needy.' When the 'need' is discovered by another, 'the person is quick to fall in love, which is not really love, but a deeper need.'

The transition in which love is discovered, perfected, and lived out, can be an intense one because of all of the 'false perspectives that have set up lingering memories, experiences, and soul ties within our subconscious.'

'Need based' relationships are not covenant relationships. It is a bartering relationship. Each person is feeding off of the goods of the other person. Trust is not needed 'when abuse is mutual.' The relationship is based on need when one's weight, hair, and mind, is affected by another within the relationship.

Truth will cause you to 'fall out of need' with another, and to establish love and trust with another. Truth, if believed and embraced in it's power, will destroy 'selfish need,' and establish matured trust 'that will show us how to be a support, without becoming a dependent.'

A person who has trouble believing in their own self worth, 'will tighten the reigns' on those who 'project a certain belief in them.' This relationship is not based on trust and truth, but on a dependence that produces manipulation, control, and 

codependency. When this pattern continues, the one 'who needs the belief,' will master the art of 'making his believers less than them, or flattering them into a maturity they have no capacity to receive at the time,' simply for the sake of keeping the 'encouragement coming his/her way!'

Truth frees you from the powers of dangerous need that comes as a result of the ignorance of self-worth; habitual manifestations of soul ties; sexual dependencies created from patterns of deep, inner need (whether from the need to nurture or the need to be nurtured and understood), and so on.

Two people can enjoy 'the privileges of non-destructive needs' towards one another. This type of need 'maximizes the uniqueness of each individual, without taking away from the potency and significance of each other.' It's a need 'that expresses and emulates the wholeness of the individuals involved in the relationship, and carries within it no desire to 'subtract or minimize the power of each individual.'

When you are free from 'needing another' in a destructive way, your life actually becomes stronger. Coming from the viewpoint of 'needy love' i.e. needing to the point where you lose yourself, it would seem as though 'not needing someone' is 'not loving someone.' This is far from the Truth. When you are free from an emotionally destructive need for another, you will begin to see the Power of Perfect Love, and Depths of Perfect Trust.

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